Accountability not Deflection

I’ve been in a funk. I know you understand. We all fall into these moods, but infrequently do I fall into one that can only be described as Soul sucking. We struggle, all of us to make sense of the way moments in life shake out. Every day, each second is a roll of the dice. We may have prepared for life as in how we see things going but control, well let’s be honest, that is the biggest illusion of them all. It is all a calculated gamble.

These moments that put us into a funk can be perceived by others in a wide array of minuscule to so massive that to many they are incomprehensible. Mine, well it falls short of even being minuscule but has my ego and heart torn open bleeding uncontrolled. I’ll be fine – I always find myself on the right side of fine, but are you?

So often I find myself scouring metaphysical shows, self–help articles and positive affirmations. Don’t we all just want to know we are doing right, being seen? In any case, I am often met by redundant sayings, people discussing how they are facing the same lesson they said they mastered months ago, and people who honestly just can’t confront their own emotions, so they want to talk about yours.

I can be one of these people. If you’ve read other articles, I have discussed to some length the vulnerability we all feel in honest, raw emotions. This is where I admit I am, but I don’t want to talk about that.

It occurred to me as I hear this so often in many contexts “I (no one) can’t make you happy. That isn’t my (their) responsibility. Only you can make yourself happy” to some extent this is very true. Perspective – choosing to be happy is ours I agree. So, I don’t want to talk about that again.

Instead let’s really look at the statement, “No one is responsible for your happiness but you yourself”. When we say this, when we fall in line with this type of thinking are we really saying that people are not responsible for their actions, lack of, or how they are perceived, and felt by others? Is it a societal thinking that it’s up to the recipient to look at it and find a positive attribute to our behavior? That’s what I am starting to hear.

No, we are not responsible for making or keeping others happy, but we are accountable for being selfish, inconsiderate, or just a schmuck. We are responsible for our lack of judgment and untamed attitudes toward others. So, while it is not my nor your responsibility to make others happy it is our collective responsibility to not make others miserable, feel unseen, or belittle.

Let’s change the narrative on personal accountability and make the world a little bit better each day. It is time to start advocation for self-accountability and not deflect with ignorant statements. I am so tired of hearing the new empowering statements of “I am sorry that is how you feel”, it negates ownership.  Be aware that your actions or lack of have consequences that will ripple into the World and may be both positive or negative and work with an open heart to own these based on your actions..

Thank you for taking time to read this blog. I am here, sending you inspiration, insight, and strength for what lies ahead in your own self-discovery and connection with Spirit. I hope somewhere between the lines of what I share and do not fully say that you find inspiration and revelations about yourself and your own journey. Please, if so, inspired leave a comment. Your feedback will help me better generate topics suited to you, the reader.