Maybe we Shouldn’t Just Keep Swimming …

It’s interesting growing up most of us are taught to be tough and to persevere. We push, drag ourselves through, tighten our bootstraps and fight to keep going. Most of the time we do this no matter what the outcome or risk to our peace of mind is.

Being the daughter to someone who served in the USMC I used to be amazed at this trait. Found it important to instill in myself. Looking back there are countless instances where I kept going, only to keep my word, only to prove others wrong, and only because I feared failure in the eyes of others.

 I admit, until recently I didn’t understand the self-damage I was creating. This trait of perseverance is valuable but within the constraints it is meant to be kept. Learning to dig in and adapting metal toughness saved me in times I could only crawl because it kept me going, but unchecked and with out understanding I now realize this way of thinking created a space of no boundaries.

Perseverance was so important to me, that I turned myself into a person who was unable to say “no” or admit “this isn’t for me” because no matter how I assessed a situation I felt I was letting someone down. I see now and hope to show you that by staying in these situations I was letting myself down and you are too.

We need to start changing the perspective, so others understand that quitting is very different than saying this is not right for me. It is an amazing quality to find the inner strength to keep pushing but it is equally amazing when you can identify and say, “this isn’t for me”. Get rid of the negative overture, self-care is not quitting!

I know from personal experience that finally saying, “this is not what I want” and consciously making the effort to put myself in a position I was comfortable in is far harder than digging in, but it is where I started to rediscover myself.

You hold the power to preserver in life by understanding yourself and speaking your truth!

Thank you for taking time to read this blog. I am here, sending you inspiration, insight, and strength for what lies ahead in your own self-discovery and connection with Spirit. I hope somewhere between the lines of what I share and don’t fully say you find inspiration and revelations about yourself and your own journey. Please, if so inspired leave a comment. Your feedback will help me better generate topics suited to you, the reader.